This is a repost from a friend of mine that I wanted to share. I couldnt have said it better myself!
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Welcome to the world of maturing females! I swear someone just yelled that at me!!!
I came to realize a few months ago, that each year my body changes, whether i like it or not! It changes in weight. it changes in shape, and it changes in almost every aspect it can change. I keep asking myself the same question… WHY ME?!!
Well, lets see….
1. I’m almost 28. which means my bone structure is changing.
2. It’s not just me, it’s every woman changing from pre 20s to later 20′s early 30s. (and so on!)
I guess i knew this would happen, as I work with clients/athletes of all ages and sizes and go through the same things as them. They’ll say “emily I fit into these pants a few years back, and I can’t seem to fit in them now, but i’m leaner” … Yes… it’s all too familiar! I ask Matt the same question “Matt.. why aren’t these pants fitting me anymore! I wore them last year in off season” clearly realizing i’m setting myself and him up for an answer that is probably not going to go over well with any female or spouse! Of course i’m going to tell my clients something along the lines of “you shouldn’t be trying to fit into clothes you did a few years ago, or try to aim for the same weight as you were when you were 18! Its unrealistic” Yet why i do I sit back and expect myself to stay the same for ever? Disbelief? Perhaps, denial is more accurate i think!
As youthful yet maturing PRO figure competitor, i think it’s completely natural for the body to take this course of action, and completely natural for me to feel this way! I’m getting a more mature, feminine frame. My body is finally holding dense hard muscle, and i’m sure my bones are shifting to bring me into a normal “woman” stage of life. Not that it means that I’ll be ready to be pushing out babies, it’s just that my body is ready! Mentally is a different story, however i think we as women get way to hooked up on a “number” or a “size” instead of just clearly looking at ourselves in the mirror naked and accepting our body looks great as it is.
I focused last year on a number for show time, and it completely threw me off. A number i wanted to try to beat in my own weight. Was it smart? Absolutely not! Was it a learning experience.. absolutely! As my body matures, it’s going to change. That’s a fact!
It wasn’t until i looked in the mirror today (actually just a few moments ago) that i completely accepted “hey i look good” no matter what weight i am! (which btw, i am leaner than last years off season, but some how weigh more!!! hrmmmm!!) and am actually completely happy with my current state! It’s taken me a few years to learn to accept and actually like being “thick” as some of my friends call it! lol! Clearly meaning they like me with a little more weight. Something i would once take an offence to is now a compliment, as i can’t expect to look like “SHREDDER” all year long! (want and expect are two different things here!!)
I think a big thing for young women who might be going through this same stage as myself right now is to know that its common, and no matter what weight you are, you need to be able to look at yourself in the mirror with little to no clothes on and be satisfied. If your old clothes dont fit you, go buy new ones to flatter and compliment your shape! I can’t tell you how many pairs of pants i have to buy 2 sizes bigger to fit my legs, and get every other aspect of them altered! Find a good seamstress.. she’ll be your best friend, and make the world of a difference! As time changes, so do people, bodies, fashion and your perception on your image!
Whether you have thick legs, wide hips, or a full booty that’s hard to fit into any pants… these are our genetics as women, and there is only one thing we can do about it, which is make the best of it, bring it’s full potential and accept the curves! Body image is huge in society, male or female. By learning to accept these changes, we’ll only become more aware of our bodies and accepting of changes to happen in the future!
Emily Sterling